Brenda Rosaaen C.E.C. ~Personal Development Coach~

Law of Attraction-does it work?

The Law of Attraction. What exactly is it?

According to Wikipedia : "Law of Attraction takes the principal "Like Attracts Like" and applies it to conscious desire. That is, a person's thoughts (conscious and unconscious), emotions, and beliefs cause a change in the physical world that attracts positive or negative experiences that correspond to the aforementioned thoughts, with or without the person taking action to attain such experiences. This process has been described as "harmonious vibrations of the law of attraction",or "you get what you think about; your thoughts determine your experience".

Even with the success of The Secret, I am still amazed that there are people out there that have not heard of it, or they are unaware of how it works.

I'd like to share a story with you about my friend of mine, I'll call her Karen. She was having some challenges awhile back, going through a messy divorce.  Anyone who has been through that knows how mentally and emotionally draining that can be.   It's not the type of thing where your friends can tell you to cheer up and everything will work out.

Doing what most friends do, I listened. As I listened I heard various statements of defeat time and again.  I so wanted to stop her and explain the Law of Attraction. Couldn't she see that she was actually attracting more of the very thing she didn't want to happen? Of course not. I also knew in the state she was in, telling her about it over the phone would just be empty words.  She wasn't ready to hear it.

Think about it?  When you first heard of it, didn't it seem a little "out there"?  Instead I sent her a copy of The Secret. That did it!  At first she just read little bits at a time, but it started making sense.  She was able to look back at her divorce and make connections with what she was reading.   

Then one day Karen decided to actually try it out. As she was driving one morning she envisioned (with feeling) that she would find a quarter on the ground (most people find pennies, she wanted to be unusual in her request), face up near her car. Once she had the image solid in her mind she let it go.

That evening when picking up her child from daycare as she was walking through the grass towards her car, her phone rang. When she looked down to answer it, something in the grass caught her eye. It was a quarter laying face up! No Joke! Now this was a plastic toy quarter, but it was still a quarter face up,on the ground, near her car, which was exactly the request she put out to the universe.

It was so fun and exciting getting the call from her and hearing that story.  Then in her typical style she said, "If I knew it worked like that I would've asked for real money and more of it!".

Keep in mind I am not saying by applying the Law of Attraction you can get tons of cash, if it worked that way, everyone would be doing it.  There are guidelines that need to be in place as well. I'll post more about that at a later time.

~Brenda ;)

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Attitude is everything

Who would have ever thought we could learn something from Mr.Bill?

Mr. Bill is a character made from clay.  Developed by that creative crew from the early days of Saturday Night Live.  Bad luck always managed to find it's way to poor Mr.Bill, sketch after sketch he was constantly getting smashed, thrown out windows, falling from buildings or being flattened on a city street by a passing truck.

Mr.Bill has now made a resurgence into pop culture, by partnering with Mastercard and their trademark, "priceless" ad campaign. 

The commercial itself has placed this unlucky clay character in a variety of painful situations where he somehow finds the positive benefit to his misfortunes.   For example at one point he get hot coffee spilled all over his feet and his response is "I've always wanted brown shoes!" At another point he gets hit and goes flying through a busy gym. When he lands on the edge of a treadmill, he realizes how lucky he is that he has found the open one! The commercial ends with him getting bumped by a briefcase, falling out a window and ending up flattened on the front of a passing bus window. What was the benefit to that?  He caught the bus on time! 

Talk about making the best of a bad situation!  When you're having one of those days... and we all have them.  It's all about how we choose to respond and it tends to set the tone for the rest of our day.  Sometimes it's easier said than done. More often than not we have to stop and make a conscious decision how we want to react - how to re-frame our thought. As with many people it's a lot easier to have a poor me type of thinking attached. Just because it's apart of the society most of us live in.

How are you responding to the events in your life?

;) Brenda

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Boom - Bam!

As I sat down to type up today's blog, I was having a bit of a brain freeze, when my teenage daughter came in the room.

She was eager to offer suggestions, but nothing seemed to be clicking with me.  I have to give her an A for effort, as each time I shot something down she came back with another.   It's not that her ideas were bad, I was just challenged how to stretch it to 200 words.   200 words really isn't that much, but today it felt huge.

Trying to help narrow her ideas down I told her I needed to keep my topic in line with personal development coaching. With that she says, "Life and sports are kind of the same.... you have to learn the basics before you can improve."   Boom - Bam!! (apparently that's what they say on her volleyball team)  She was on to something!

I wasn't sure exactly what she said after that, something about how "you can't just rush in thinking your gonna win.... bump, set, spike..."  That's all I heard and it made perfect sense!

Think about life, your career, your goals in volleyball terms:

Bump! - you're poised and ready, you hit the ball with a mix of confidence and trepidation as when stepping out to begin your new venture. 

Set! - your team member's assist - in other words your support system, friends, family, colleagues, and in some cases additional knowledge.

Spike! - It's your turn to really nail that ball! The steps have been put into place and you are confident and ready to take action.

Ace! - You did it! The ball went over the net and the players on the other side missed it. You score! You have reached that goal that you have worked so hard for, after all the long practices and sometimes losses.  Occasionally you may have hit the net, but it only allowed you to learn from your mistakes and made you stronger.

Boom-Bam!!  ;)

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Introduction

I'm pretty new to this blogging thing.   So I'm a little slow getting out of the gate, and now I'm reading and hearing over the internet that blogging is now taking a backseat to video. Geez, wouldn't you know that would be my luck. Maybe I'll be a little faster catching on to that.

With this first blog I thought I'd give you a little background information. I don't really like talking about myself and my intention is not to sound like a resume either, so bear with me. I consider myself a personal development junkie. It's just an area that I've been naturally drawn to since high school.

I heard a story recently, I don't remember all the details but the jist of it was, about a tiger cub adopted by a group of sheep and as it grew, it learned to live like a sheep.  It tried to baa like a sheep but it didn't quite feel or sound right.  One day when the tiger was older he could hear the faint roar of a group tigers. The flock of sheep began to run the other direction, of course he ran away along with the sheep, as he thought he was one too.  Yet he had a feeling deep inside, the roar felt so familiar to him, like it was pulling him. But he was a sheep, his flock was comfortable and all he had ever known. So he continued on, never knowing what could have been.

A friend that I was with that day told me, "You are just like that tiger in the story". (except when I heard the roar, I stopped to listen) I took that as a great compliment.

I do want to clarify one thing.  I didn't leave my current life or my responsibilities.  I left my comfort zone, and I've done it many times since.   Everytime it's hard, it's scary, it's unknown territory with no guarantees and sometimes it can come with a heafty price tag. 

One thing I do know, I will be forever grateful for listening to that faint far away voice and not chickening out back in 1996. 

The ripple affect of that one step, led me not only to genuine friendships and connections with people of all walks of life from all over the country, but incredible learning opportunities, a tremendous boost in confidence and self-esteem, a positive example for my children to see that anything is possible no matter what your personal circumstances, and the really great part is all the steps and stumbles along the way (and yes, there were many, many stumbles!) have led me to this amazing career I now have.

What is your true passion?  Are you listening to your faint far way voice?

~Brenda ;)

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